‘Always be yourself and you will find someone who loves you for everything you are, flaws or no flaws’

The Silly Girl met up with a friend today – someone whom she has known since University and although its been a while since we last met, the first question was ‘Are you married yet?’, ‘Do you have a boyfriend?’, ‘Not young already leh, better get yourself attached and have kids’… Whoa! Is this supposed to be SDU interview(for non-Singaporeans, this is more commonly known as the Social Development Unit aka ‘Single, Desperate and Ugly’ as joked by some other less sensitive Singaporeans)

Not surprisingly, the Silly Girl gave her normal nonchalant response – ‘err no lah, I am looking for someone – perhaps someone who is honest, genuine (and coming from a girl who had fallen for enough wrong people in the past, this is the ‘awoken’ Silly Girl at work). someone whom I can depend on for the rest of my life and not someone whom I get attached to/married to, and divorce a few years later… I am sure there will be someone out there for me… I just have to slowly wait and find.”

Yes! I have always been told to ‘mellow down’ a little, ‘lower my expectations’ (which btw isn’t high, unless finding someone who is honest, with integrity and one who can ‘click’ with you, is considered an expectation too high), ‘go out and meet anyone’, or ‘date anyone’, and yes, sometimes I might have even succumbed to the little nudgings by my girlfriends, but the Silly Girl has never veered off from her the basic elements that she is looking for in a partner – neither has she veered off from her personal beliefs to a persona that she isn’t…

I will never be as spunky as Lucy Liu, nor as sassy as a Michelle Reis. And neither will I be as pretty as those Korean women nor as lady-like as the long-haired girls (sorry folks, while this is a common misconception but hey, everyone has their right) but I am un-bashfully proud of who I am - the klutz, the ‘at times’ ditz, the stubborn mule, the over-emotional woman, and the fragile little girl. And I know that there will be someone out there who will appreciate my honesty, treasure my feelings and love me for who I am…

And until then, I am happy being the captain of the ship to my life. So for all you concerned friends out there (and I am going to say one last time), please do not worry for me cos I am fine.